The most significant gift my short life has given me is an overwhelming amount of experience with change. From moving to 32 homes by the time I was 18, to the countless adversities that have and will always follow me because of my commitment to honor myself, unapologetically.
Change is the only thing I’ve learned I can rely on. Because of that, I’ve learned to see and live on the beautiful side of change. And that perspective is my gift.
Here are 9 principles of change By Ariane de Bonvoisin that I read to myself often. They’ve helped me, and I hope they do the same for you.
Principle 1: People who successfully navigate change have positive beliefs.
Your biggest need right now is to develop new beliefs: about yourself, about this change, and about life in general. Nothing will have a bigger impact on the way you move through change.
Principle 2: People who successfully navigate change know that change always brings something positive into their lives.
Every change has a gift associated with it. While it’s natural to find change hard it’s important to remember that there are two sides to every coin and that something positive will always come. This is by far the most important belief to have during the first thirty days of change.
Principle 3: People who successfully navigate change know they are resilient, strong, and capable of getting through anything.
You are much stronger, much smarter, and much more intuitive than you have ever been told. You are more resilient and more powerful. Once you truly know and believe this, you will be able to get through any change- even the hardest one you can imagine.
Principle 4: People who successfully navigate change know that every challenging emotion they feel is not going to stop them and will guide them to positive emotions that help them feel better.
Negative emotions can stall us, making change harder, while the positive ones can help us move through a change in a simpler, quicker, and more conscious way.
Principle 5: People who successfully navigate change know that the quicker they accept the change, the less pain and hardship they will feel.
Let go of the idea of how life is “supposed” to be.
Principle 6: People who successfully navigate change use empowering questions and words, think better thoughts, and express their feelings.
At your most stuck point, if you can speak with different words, think a slightly better thought, and get in touch with how you are feeling, you can become unstuck in a matter of minutes.
Principle 7: People who successfully navigate change know they are connected to something bigger than themselves.
When everything around you is changing, look for the part of you that doesn’t change. The part that is calm, centered and always there.
Principle 8: People who successfully navigate change are not alone; they surround themselves with people who can help, who have the right beliefs and skills. And they create an environment that supports their change.
One of our biggest flaws as human beings is that we keep thinking we are alone. Whatever the situation, there is always, always someone who can help.
Principle 9: People who successfully navigate change take action. They have a plan and know how to take care of themselves.
Actions come in many forms. Some are big and obvious; some are so small you may think they are irrelevant. But any good action you take is a choice to move forward.
The First 30 Days: By Ariane de Bonvoisin